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Dee's avatar

Thank you for being real. And brave. It’s not easy to admit your feelings. I want to be this bold. I subscribed ❤️

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Minh Ngoc Thi Dang's avatar

Thank you for naming the types of loneliness.

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The Unlearning Lab's avatar

This was a wonderful read. I loved it so much. Loneliness is something I think we all have trouble with.

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Ivana Esther Martínez's avatar

WOW. This was POTENT. Thank you.

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Lotanna's avatar

I’m not lonely because I’m black.

Me being black has nothing to do with my loneliness.

I’m just lonely.

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Crimson's avatar

Really enjoyed this thank you

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Mofi B 🐝✨'s avatar

your words were my morning devotion lol! I loved the naming of the different types of naming. I was reflecting on loneliness of disconnect that comes from when one doesn’t fit into the mainstream and begin to lose people/connections. I really enjoyed the snippet from Audre Lorde’s book - a great reminder to do and show up with our fears. Thank you 🩶

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Nneka M. Okona's avatar

Appreciate you reading! I’m so glad that it resonated. 💖

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Melissa B Flowers Ph.D.'s avatar

I relate to this so deeply. I just created a Substack account, and have been trying to figure out what I am going to write about on this platform. Recently, I decided to invest in learning about how others define loneliness and isolation to develop a better understanding of my own depression, and coming across this post was a sort of confirmation. I honor your experience and empathize with it. Sending light

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Nneka M. Okona's avatar

Thank you for this incredible comment, Melissa! I am glad you felt seen in my work. ♥️

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Quinisha's avatar

I love your writing. It's raw, thorough, refreshing.

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Nneka M. Okona's avatar

Thank you so much for reading and for these kind words! ♥️

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Andonnia's avatar

I am grateful for your transparency! We are not a monolith. And while I see solutions on the horizon, I want to honor your feelings in your grief and loss journey. Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, Another Black Women.

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Nneka M. Okona's avatar

Thank you so much for this kind, gracious response. It is a relief to be seen. Appreciate you reading! ♥️

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